I learned about Rites of Passage from National Geographic Magazine. I loved the pictures of colourful dress and exotic places. At the natural history museum, I spent time looking at shells, bells, beads and feathers. Later, a course on the history of theatre introduced me to tribal dance and ritual. As well as seasonal festivals, there were ceremonies to mark changing roles of individuals. (Some were more of an ordeal, but that’s another story.)

In western society, we note births, marriages and deaths … and there are other and events that are important to recognise. For example…

Sometimes, the biggest events in our lives go unnoticed. Sometimes, the events that have the biggest effect are not the most obvious … and what’s needed is a commemoration or a celebration.

I believe it’s important to celebrate achievements - even small ones. I’ve learned that it helps the soul to mark losses, to honour what has passed in order to move on. And I’ve learned that being still … accepting life as it is right now … is one of the most empowering attitudes for change. Being still, it is possible to observe, and with observation comes awareness of choice.

From what I’ve learned, I’ve developed the Rites of Passage Program, a 10-module process for focussing on creative change. Steps include a reality check, letting go of disappointments, and finding ways to bring more of what we want into our lives.

I love this quote from Mark Twain … “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did so. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbour. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.” That’s valid if you’re 20 or 80. It doesn’t matter at what point you set off … because you always start from where you are, now.

If you’re interested in discovering more about the Rites of Passage Program, call me on 07931 755 856.